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Prompts
Evaluating our life
- What do you like about your life as it is today?
- What don’t you like about your life as it is today?
- Do you feel trapped by any of the things that you don’t like about your life today
- If you went to the doctor next week and he told you that you were dying and had one year to live, what would you do for the next year?
- If you inherited $10 billion, what would you do with the rest of your life, and what would you do with the money?
- What is holding you back from the life you really want?
- If you could change three things about your life, what would they be
Ideas
- Work and life balance is seen as separate, but in reality, they are connected and have influence on eachother
- Work should be personal
Satisfaction
- Satisfaction can be sustained outside of the activity producing it
- It’s possible to work hard as long as we feel satisfied at the end of the day
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- We can see an increase in our satisfaction if we measure it
Obstacles
- Pleasure cannot be sustained beyond the activity producing it
- ex) Eating gives pleasure, but when we stop eating the pleasure ends
- Addiction is wanting more of something, as it continues to bring less satisfaction
- Addiction to pleasure, which harms our amount of genuine satisfaction
Three practical philosophies that diminish our lives and others:
- Individualism; weakens community and fails groups
- Hedonism; emphasizes pleasure as ultimate goal of life
- Enslavement to cravings and addictions, causing despair
- Minimalism, a disease that prevents pushing ourselves to our full potential
Mindset
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Can cultivate a sense of direction and purpose through the questions we ask ourselves
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Consider long-term motivators like giving your children a successful environment to succeed
How is the best way to live
How is the best way to live? You alone have to decide for yourself (Page 32)
- Up to us to experiment and see what works best
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Self-Control
- Self-control is our most important trait, as it allows us to focus on what’s important
Energy
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- Vital to successful personal and professional satisfaction (PPS)
- Energy is needed to make the most of our time management
- Consider what activities give you energy (helping others), and what don’t (media consumption)
- People tend to wind down and “recharge” by going on their phones or watching tv, but rarely do people feel more energized coming out of it
- It’s important to manage our energy by finding effective ways to recharge throughout the draining tasks of the day
- Prompts (consider what energizes/drains for each):
- People
- Places
- Things
- Activities
- Everything exudes some form of energy which can impact your own and your mood, even if it isn’t blatant
- A fancy restaurant vs a traditional supermarket
Levels of Energy
- Low/Destructive energy
- Depressed, burnt out, exhausted, overwhelmed
- Happens when we don’t have enough in our reserves for unexpected life events
- Wrong prioritization, focusing on urgent and unimportant
- Unavoidable to some extent, but we can control our exposure
- High level negative energy
- Angry, anxious, defensive, fearful
- Prone when we are fatigued (going off on your child after a long day’s at work)
- Restorative/reflective energy
- Mellow, serene, content
- Requires effort to achieve
- Acquired through yoga, meditation, walks
- Hindered through technological distractions and notifications
- High level positive energy
- Peak performance, confident, enthusastic, invigorated
- Is contagious, surround yourself with like-minded people
- Successful salesman and marketing contains 4th level energy
Maintenance
- Traditional self-care practices:
- Walk
- Water
- Work on passions
- Expressing gratitude
- Find a system that consistently provides enough energy
- People have the right dreams and behaviors, but fail to apply them
- Thus, systems are important
- People have the right dreams and behaviors, but fail to apply them
- Be someone who doesn’t drain energy, but inspires it
5 - Systems
Five components:
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Assessment
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Priorities
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Core habits
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Weekly strategy session
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Quarterly review
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The period of time we are responsible for is correlated with our reward
- ex) A fast food worker only focuses on each order which takes minutes, shift manager focuses on the entire shift, store manager focuses on quarterly results, ceo focuses on yearly growth
Assessment
- Acts as a measurement for different areas in personal and professional life, something to work towards
- Know what you’re journeying toward and away from
- Use the low answers in the assessment and try to think of how you can work towards higher answers
- Consider food, people, sleep, activities
Priorities
- Create a list of the aspects of your life
- Reduce to 5-6 things
- Start at top item, compare to every other item
- Checkmark if it won over
- Review priority list in weekly reviews
- Reassess every once in a while
Core Habits
- If a day doesn’t start strong, it rarely ends off that way
- Switch from enthusiasm to survival mode
- Think of 5 habits/components to ensure a good day, that can override any disaster
- healthy, focused, energized
- His are:
- working out 45mins
- crazy how paradoxical this is
- 30min meditation
- Helps remind of priorities, challenges growth?
- showing love/gratitude towards his wife
- bruh, i mean i do have a lot of relationships in my life where I should express more gratitude for
- 2k calories
- One gallon of water
- working out 45mins
- Start with one, and add another when you have 80% completion
Weekly Reviews
- Know what projects to focus on, have a vision for each day
- Allocate key project to each day of the week
Quarterly Reviews
- Get someone close to you, and review your life with them
- What is not working well, your progress on commitments
- Do it in a quiet place
Misc
- The author sometimes has 85 week workweeks
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Created:: 2021-10-05