Choosing partners on short-term, trivial qualities

Common trivial qualities we assess partners on:

Money
- A salary above 75k/year does not ensure a greater emotional well-being
  - Richness is subjective
Good looks
- Appearance matters in life success
- Appearance is just short-term, qualities stay !
  - We will eventually be accustomed to their appearance, making it less attractive
- Our attraction to apperance is survival-based, as it allows time for the child to mature before we lose interest in our partner
- It’s cool to have, just make sure it doesn’t make someone a turn off
A similar personality

Northwestern professor and marriage expert Eli Finkel, he said, “There is no correlation between how satisfied or how happy you are with a relationship and how similar your personalities are.” In other words, we make our potential pool of partners smaller by mistakenly eliminating people who are not similar enough to us.
- Would we want to date ourselves?
- Think of someone who can complement your own character
Shared hobbies
- Make sure you’re giving space hehe
- Other Significant Other
  - It’s virtually impossible to have all your hobbies and needs met by one person, so have other people fill the gaps
    - Not being interested in certain things does not mean they are a bad partner
      - It allows them to stay secure and focus on what they’re best at

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Created:: 2022-01-08 15:49