Status: Tags: Links: Styles of Social Interaction - Becoming a Giver
Givers
Qualities
Personal
- Exhausting
- Can be fortified against general burnout since giving builds them reserves of happiness and meaning that takers and matchers are less able to access
- Giver burnout is not due to the amount they give but rather the amount of feedback they get from their contributions
- Tending for others can help deal with burnout
- Linked to a lack of social support
- Teachers experience the highest rates of emotional exhaustion
- Tend to not be spotted since they usually aren’t the flashiest
- Not self-focused
- Calculate whether the external benefits outweigh the personal cost
- Probably inhabit the 5 Minute Favor Rule
- Are willing to accept Criticism to improve
Social
- Comfortable expressing their vulnerability, resulting in showing their authenticity and building prestige
- Use powerless communication style through presenting, selling, persuading and negotiating
- Uses Powerless Communication
- Makes the listener think about what they’re saying
- Uses Powerless Communication
- Cares about the needs of others more than their own
- Don’t see people as obstacles to personal success
- Plans more goals related to the benefit of others rather than themselves, but are still as self-ambitious as takers
- More sensitive to the individual differences and shades between agreeable and disagreeable
Types
Selfless givers
- People with high other-interest and low self-interest, which can be considered as an unhealthy focus on others to the detriment of their own needs
- Engage in pure altruism, which is when we selflessly give to those in need due to empathy
Otherish givers
- Willing to give more than they receive, but are still tending to their personal needs
Benefits
Personal
- Reach the top of the rankings without exploiting others
- Can achieve the same success as takers and matchers, while also providing a ripple effect, enhancing the success of people around them
- People work harder and longer when they gave their energy out of enjoyment and purpose, rather than duty or obligation
- The 100-hour rule of volunteering implies that people who spend around 100 hours every year volunteering in some way feel happier in life
Social
- People who regularly seek advice and help from knowledgeable colleagues are rated more favourably by supervisors
- Reinforces reputation and expands possibilites
- Others are willing to help us after helping them
- People who you have helped can recommend you to others
- Give people lightbulbs and allow for ideas to flow and problems to be solved
- Empowers others with Psychological Safety
Downsides
Personal
- Tend to do worse in the workforce, and are more susceptible to earn less, be victims of crimes, and be less powerful
Social
- Prone to exploitation
- Prone to pronoia, the delusional belief that other people are plotting your well-being, or saying nice things about you behind your back
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