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Going on a date workflow

Designing better dates

1. Shift mindset with a pre-date ritual
   • Law of manifestation, what you think becomes
   • Think of ways you can feel good prior:
     • Talk to a close friend, relalx
     • Comedy show
     • Exercise
     • Bath
2. Choose time and place
   • Something appropriate for the mood
     • Dim light, sitting side by side makes it more vulnerable for conversation
   • A fucking walk
3. Look for a creative activity/third object to bond over
   • Helps with fuelling conversation, taking pressure off solely you two
     • Books, games, other people
       • People allows you to see their social tendencies
       • Date ideas bookmark

       • Other person is forced to say yes, whole day excursion

4. Show your work
   • People appreciate the effort and value put into things
     • Mention the effort you put in for the date
       • I know you live near here so we can go here?
       • I saw you liked x so how about we do y?
5. Play/have fun
   • Most memorable dates are ones where you actually enjoy it
   • Curious and engaging way to learn
     • Create backstories for strangers
6. Skip small talk
   • Just skip it, talk about something on your way to the date, something that caught you attention
   • Ask for advice related to your life, hear responses
7. Be interested, not interesting
   • You don’t need to perform on a first date
   • Support responses that enable the other person vs shift responses where you bring attention back to you
8. • The urgency and interruption of phones prevent people from being fully invested, committing to heavy topics
   • Ask to put phones away
9. End on a high note
   • Do something quirky
     • People judge their experience based on the end and the most intense part
   • Compliment, offer dessert, etc
10. Reflection
    • Prompts
      • What side of me did they bring out?
      • How did my body feel during the date? Stiff, relaxed, or something in between?
      • Do I feel more energized or de-energized than I did before the date?
      • Is there something about them I’m curious about?
      • Did they make me laugh?
      • Did I feel heard?
      • Did I feel attractive in their presence?
      • Did I feel captivated, bored, or something in between?
    • Having to answer these lingers in your mind

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Created:: 2022-01-08 16:08